And finally, when I’m exhausted from the psychological toll of racial microaggressions, daily Black Death, and everyday life, do I have to educate him on the ways in which he is further dehumanizing me or invalidating my opinions? This also applies to non-Black people of color who aspire to whiteness or uphold white supremacist ideals.So whether he is or isn’t into Black guys, I don’t think he’s for me, and I’m finally ok with admitting that.After 26 years as a Black queer man and two separate 2.5-year relationships with white men, 2015 is the year I have decided to stop dating white men indefinitely.While my personal decision not to date white men is the direct result of dating white men, the decision is rooted less in my experience with the individuals I dated and more in my experience with society.My friends make fun of me for hooking up with.being attracted to black girls and I think that's ridiculous. So just wondering if that works both ways and black girls have anything against white guys or don't and would date one Thanks for all of the responses. Mix or black girls , would you date a white or black guy? But despite our male privilege, the intersection of our Blackness and queerness exists in a society that privileges heterosexuality.And finally, we live in a world that provides white people with privilege while constantly affirming their whiteness at the cost of Blackness.
So, as Black queer men, we have male privilege that largely provides us with protection from things like the gender-based violence women face every day.At this point, the societal factors for not dating a white man become personal and political.Institutions and society work together to purposefully prevent white people from seeing their privilege.It’s pretty simple: a relationship is hard enough and becomes more difficult with racism, white supremacy, and white fragility.This is not to say that racial compatibility solves all relationship problems; Black love is not without its many struggles because relationships inherently require work.