Whatever rules you’ve applied to dating in the past, just throw them out the window.
Because when it comes to having a relationship with a man who has kids, you’ll need to follow a whole new set of guidelines.
About Rhonda Findling: Rhonda Findling is a psychotherapist and author of the acclaimed "Don't Call That Man! Rhonda has been featured in the New York Post, Los Angeles Times, Newsday, Rocky Mountain News, Cosmopolitan magazines, Latina Magazine and Today's Black Woman.
A Survival Guide To Letting Go", "The Commitment Cure, What To Do When You Fall For An Ambivalent Man" and "The Dating Cure". Her articles have appeared in Complete Woman Magazine and Essence.
“That means he may not always be available to you or as spontaneous as a kid-free guy,” says Findling.
Though hopefully you’ll get along well enough with his children to be part of their life, most dads and their kids will still want some one-on-one time.
Rhonda also worked as a psychologist for the State of New York for three years.
She was a counselor for Victims Information Bureau where she counseled victims of rape, sexual assault, and spouse abuse.
“For example, if he says he would be willing to change his plans with them to She’s the mother of his children and if they’re both involved in their kids’ lives, she’s not going anywhere.Rhonda has appeared as a relationship expert on several national talk shows including Ricki Lake, Geraldo, Maury Povitch, Eye Witness News, Good Day New York, Carnie, Ilyana, Tempest and Judith Regan Tonight. She has led workshops and seminars throughout New York and L. Rhonda has been in private practice in Forest Hills and Manhattan for the past 12 years.She was a psychotherapist on the staff of Post Graduate Center for Mental Health in New York for 13 years.” Just make sure not Sounds obvious but if your guy’s close to his kids (which is a good thing), then his little ones will be part of your life, too. Cheese than wine and cheese and that sleeping at his place may turn into a slumber party.It also means his kids play a role in how he feels about you.