Most grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.They’re looking for someone with brown eyes, short hair, between 5’10” and 6′, from west London, and so on. First, they make the writer sound like a control freak.Yeah, I squint a little bit, but my wife/cinematographer still thinks I’m cute.And while we wouldn’t have written to each other online (She’s too old! ), that’s the perfect reason for you to learn from our mistakes!Having sex doesn’t make you morally corrupt, and it won’t necessarily wreck your chances of a relationship.If you’re both adults, single and you use protection, it’s your choice – but if you’d rather not, that’s your choice too. Ignore those rules about waiting three days to get in touch.Six messages in total – not each – is enough to know whether you want a date. Chances are that you won’t fancy each other, or that only one of you will fancy the other. It’s easy to lose faith when your first few dates don’t work out.
Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may surprise you. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like: “I’m no good at this kind of thing”. If you put yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with.As most online daters know, it's not the first date that's hard to get — it's the second.But if you're dating because you want a relationship and not just a date, making a connection and getting that second date (and third and fourth) is the whole point.If you had written to each other online, would you two have hit it off. Online daters consider a first date a dead end unless they feel sparks and chemistry.You and your wife met at a party, friends of friends and had a chance to grow on each other.