The way office romances are judged is that men do it for love and women do it to get ahead.According to a recent survey of 8,000 workers by the job-search website Career Builder.com, four out of 10 employees have dated someone at work; 17 percent have done it twice.That’s not to say women who date within the office always keep separate their personal and professional lives.Another reason women may feel the repercussions of office romance more deeply than men may be attributed to basic differences in gender.But sometimes, that's way easier said than done — especially if your job requires you to spend long hours and tight cubicles with the same person.Tempting (and steamy) as it may be, it can also turn out to be super awkward and traumatic — something we all saw unfold on the first season of 1. Like in the "think about it for a few extra days" way, not in the literal sense.The study found that in most situations, employees believe that women are motivated by job—the prospect of some employment-related advantage—while men by the less professionally threatening love or ego.More so than males, female employees in an office relationship, even a lateral one, are more likely to be suspected of using their relationships to get ahead and of being loyal to their romantic partner above all else.
Remember when cameraman Jeremy hooked up with producer Rachel, then got engaged to makeup artist Lizzie, but then broke it off to date Rachel?
Women are more likely than men to be the targets of that office gossip, according to a 2012 study published in the journal Sex Roles.
That might explain why office gossip about a romantically involved couple would tend to target the woman over the man.
Are you willing to live with the regret of not knowing? No need to go into details about your feelings for bae, but do tell your boss that the relationship won't interfere with your work performance. Rather than turning it into the source of all office gossip in perpetuity, use discretion when telling your coworkers. Keep your attention where it should be during office hours.
You're not being paid to date, so don't spend your time on the clock making googly eyes across the conference room table. Your coworkers shouldn't have to be a part of any relationship squabbles and take sides, and you shouldn't ask them to. Make it a rule to focus only on each other once you're off the clock.