It might be hard to find such a gem in the real world.A concrete example of an issue that might be hard to negotiate: Say I found a Mormon woman I wanted to marry. There is no way in hell I would get married without them being present, which would of necessity mean a non-temple wedding.They just started dating, but still, I was again proud of her for being proactive about it and getting out there and making an effort, which appears to have led to some promising initial traction.She is no longer in the Church, so religion is not a major consideration for her.In high school, the purpose of dating is to get to know people and have fun.There are a lot of good people out there who are not members of the Church but still have high moral standards of their own and will support you in keeping yours.None of them was a hit, but the evenings were pleasant enough and she felt good about actually trying and putting herself out there. I called her just a couple of days ago to make Memorial Day plans, and in the course of that conversation I asked her how the online dating experiment was coming.And she casually mentioned that she’s actually seeing someone now.
Dating can be a great experience to share values with a nonmember, but you may want to ask yourself: Is this person respectful enough of me to support my standards while on a date?The demand for decent, marriageable Mormon men is so strong that I can see how Mormon women might see LDS guys dating outside the fold as a betrayal of sorts.But now that I’m much older I’m less stereotypically Mormon than I was as that 21-year old RM I was when I got married. But I’m also quite liberal and intellectual in the way I relate to the Church as an institution these days.(To name but one example of many, I think nothing of seeing R rated movies, something which would be shocking to many LDS women.) The mantra of the older Mormon woman looking for someone to date is that she wants someone who “honors his priesthood.” I hold the priesthood and honor it (I think) in my way, but that mantra I suspect is code for a certain Peter Priesthood type, a mold into which I”m not even close to fitting.Mormonism is just culturally weird in so many ways that it would be a relief to be with someone who either was one or was familiar with the religious culture of the faith, so that I wouldn’t feel the constant need to explain or defend the many things that would come up requiring such explanation or defense.