The women in the study, on the other hand, didn't react as predictably.
While they reported feeling aroused in the ways you might expect (straight women were turned on by men, lesbians by women), measurements of their vaginal blood flow showed that they were physically aroused by all the forms of coupling they saw — even the bonobos. The women in Chivers's study were aroused by all the images — but that doesn't mean they desired to have sex with the people (or animals) they saw.
Brotto advises next getting familiar with your body by examining and touching yourself during or after a shower, experimenting with what feels good."But often, if she plays along she starts to feel aroused, and then the desire kicks in," Leiblum says. ’ To help women sync up their brains with their bodies, Brotto has begun teaching the art of mindfulness.The idea is to enable women to stay focused on sex by integrating the physical with the mental so that mental excitement can heighten physical arousal and vice versa.The sexual contact may be what gets you in the mood."When a woman's partner initiates sex, she may feel indifferent to it at first," says psychologist Sandra Leiblum, Ph.