"Now, in your 30s, priorities are changing, biological realities are setting in and your focus is to find someone with whom you can build a life and have children." It isn't just that the dating pool is smaller after 30, it's also that your brain has literally changed since you were 21 and sidling up to the hottie at the bar."Brain development is the primary reason dating after 30 is so different," said David Ezell, the clinical director at Darien Wellness."Up until this time, your priorities have been career and experiencing life, and you weren't interested in settling down.You did not feel the pressure to start thinking about what city you wanted to end up in and the age by which you wanted to have your first kid," Milrad said.This means that the dating pool after 30 isn't quite what it used to be."The dating pool has shrunk by 30, with more of your peers in long-term relationships or marriages, and with your social circle feeling smaller," said e Harmony's Chief of Advice Jeannie Assimos."It seems that around age 30, men start looking for younger women to date, which narrows the dating pool significantly.Younger women are perceived as more 'fun' with fewer expectations and a more youthful appearance and body." Ryan said that many men even limit their online dating searches to only women up to age 35, regardless of how old they are themselves.
After 30, many experts agree that women are more interested in commitment than ever before."There is very little that we can do about this, but accepting this reality is important when setting expectations for dating." Another reason that men may start dating younger women after 30 is that we tend to have a bit more baggage the older we are.This isn't limited to women so you'll need to ready to deal with some baggage in your own potential partners too, like past relationships and maybe even kids from prior relationships."In your 30s, chances are you've already had a few relationships.Some of these might not have ended amicably, and could have involved being cheated on or feeling violated in another way.