The case of Hosea was for the specific purpose of communicating a prophesy to Israel. The normal way God works regarding marriage is to give people choices and allow them to choose. There are other reasons why I don’t believe God has a husband/wife ordained for everyone. Any condition beyond the one God stipulated is really a personal and individual matter. The idea that we need God to decide who we marry is absurd.
But note that God actually never told Hosea to marry Gomer specifically. For example, one man may decide he wants to marry someone who doesn’t work. Yes God brings people in and out of our lives, but ultimately it is we who decide, not God.
Dating allows us time to focus on our spouse and to discover new things together. While it can provide some much needed couple-time away from family and friends, group dating with other couples, can also be a positive reinforcement for our marriage.
Dating should be a powerful reminder of why we committed in the first place and is definitely a necessity in a successful marriage.
A successful marriage doesn’t happen “just because”. We believe that having a healthy, growing marriage relationship requires friendship, fun and romance.
And there’s no better way to encourage all of these things than having dates!
One of the most common Christian dating questions I get is, “Do you believe that God has a husband/wife for each person? In fact, there is much evidence from scripture for the opposing view, that we must go out and find ourselves a husband/wife. No one’s going to burn in hell for believing that God has a perfect husband/wife for them. Years go by and she’s not so young anymore, and still waiting for God to “bring someone into her life”. If so, Paul was not co-operating by choosing to remain single. Then Paul had no right, writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, to claim that he could have taken a wife if he wanted to. Paul decided that given his ministry – traveling all the time and the possibility of being killed at any moment – it was better to remain single.
Personally I am disinclined to accept this view primarily because there is not a shred of evidence for it from scripture. A young lady keeps turning down potential husbands because she has not “heard from God” or someone told her “he is not God’s will for you”. God gave Paul the liberty and the wisdom to choose whether or not he wanted to marry.
Perhaps one of the most important things a married couple can do to ensure that their relationship thrives is to date.Yet, we need our spouse to remain our #1 priority through the madness, and the way to make this happen is through regular, prioritized date time together.It doesn’t have to be fancy or even away from home, but you MUST date your spouse if you want an awesome marriage and a love-filled home!Great dates are more than going to see a movie and tuning out the world for a while.Great dates involve communicating with one another, reviving the spark that initially ignited your fire, and developing mutual interests and goals that are not focused on your careers or your children. Dating provides a wonderful opportunity for married couples to stay meaningfully connected.