Some separated amicably and are both very much involved with their children, sometimes as a family unit for sake of the event.Some are single parents and the MIA figure is a pink elephant in the room, everpresent as they are ever absent. There are endless scenarios and everyone operates on different dynamics.
The math in putting 1 1 together is hard enough; it’s an equation we spend our whole lives trying to master until at last we form a solid pair. I met someone amazing, and at the same time, met his kids (also amazing). Now, some time later and armed with a better understanding, there are a few things I wish I’d known from the get-go that might have spared me some serious mental struggle: It sounds aggressive, as though I’m telling you that dating someone with kids will ensure you’re always treated second-rate, never coming first and always neglected in some aspect for preferential love to the young ones. The kids will always come first, yes, but if he’s a catch and you’re lucky, you’ll score second place.
He’s going to want to know what you’re looking for in this, and you’re going to want to know where he sees you fitting in. It’s going to feel awkward and ill-timed, but above all, it’s going to be honest.
This part can be unfamiliar to those of us who are better accustomed to the standard dating game, but you’ll also find it bizarrely refreshing.
The men in your dating pool would be other single dads with 1 or more kids.
Unfortunately you chose your mate poorly and now have the burden of being at the back of the line in the dating pool. I get it, we can’t all predict the future, thus, there is huge risk involved when marrying or having children.