The best way to avoid this sort of thing is to kill people with kindness, even if they don’t deserve it.Say that you’re in the midst of a phone call with a prospect (after some e-mail exchanges), and you realize that he or she just isn’t a match.You have to accept the bad guy or girl role unless you want to create an even angrier person out of your former prospect.Realize that many people forget how little time they actually have invested in their exchanges and that they don’t have a good perspective on their circumstances.Note that at Match.com, you need to turn your invisible status on each time you log in.
Say that you get an e-mail from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person.The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander.I’ve enjoyed chatting with you, but I don’t think we’re a match. Some people flame others by sending e-mails, warning people of a person’s supposed bad character. He is [insert issue here].”) Although you could sue them for defamation, who needs the grief?Here are the Internet-appropriate ways to say no: Note that Internet dating sites vary in the sophistication of their features.On some sites, the person knowsthat you received his or her e-mail and read it.