You spent a large part of your life with this person, and during the years you were together, dating and married, you came to think of that person as YOUR significant other.
You two were a couple and to see your spouse with someone else will trigger feelings in you that may be surprising and unpleasant.
Whether the divorce was your idea or your spouse’s, most people find themselves experiencing negative emotions when their ex-spouse starts dating again. Here are six tips that will help you process those negative emotions.
These are common questions you may ask yourself when your ex-spouse starts dating again.
I wrote Now that I've given that background on the journey I've taken, let me share with you a bit of what I conveyed in my response to the woman who emailed me.
This applies more to those who date loving, responsible fathers.
It does not mean you are still in love but rather you are witnessing the evidence that your spouse now has someone else in the place you used to fill.
Though you may not understand the feelings you are having, they are a natural part of moving on after a divorce.
Most people are puzzled as to why they are jealous of someone they didn’t want in their life any longer. This was YOUR husband or YOUR wife, you expected fidelity, and now it may feel like cheating to see them with someone else.
The special things you had together were unique to the two of you.
So, when you feel jealousy or discomfort over your ex dating, remember that no one can really take the same place in your ex’s life that you had. When that time comes you aren't going to waste time worrying about who your ex is with.
Remember what you think and what you feel can sometimes be at odds, but it’s perfectly normal to feel some jealousy and even look for things to criticize in your ex’s new partner.
And, if you've not moved on to a new relationship of your own, your jealousy may stem from the mere fact that they have.