I am told that women want to settle down and have kids, etc., but their actions seem to be to the contrary.
At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.
Which means that a man gets the entire pool of women from 25-60 to date and he can have his pick. I am convinced that what drives so much of the hurt and anger in divorces is the knowledge, whether conscious or subconscious, that she’s competing with all the other women from 25 – 60.
A woman who is divorced at 45 has a slim chance of finding another husband because a 45-year-old-man, can and likely will be dating a 35- or 25-year-old-woman.
They come to me and share their pain and concerns that they have to start dating again. It is much easier for a man in his 40s to find desirable dating partners of the female persuasion. You need only look at the numbers to figure out why.
This is when I get to share with them the good news. To begin with, there are more women than men in society.
I’m a 42 year old single male who recently left a 5 year relationship for various reasons, but mainly because I wanted kids and she did not.
I thought that since I was an attractive, fit, well-educated, financially and emotionally secure guy that I would have no problem finding a woman in her mid 30s to settle down with and start a family.
Any advice on how to navigate these new paradigms in the dating world? And to directly address your email, I have to divide my response into two different parts: 1) What You’re Getting Right and 2) What You’re Missing. We’ve addressed this before, from an older man who couldn’t possibly fathom why a younger woman wouldn’t want to be with him. We can complain that the opposite sex is unrealistic and passing up great opportunities – and we’d be right – but it doesn’t change that people want what they want. They, too, have a lot of dating options, are busy building their careers, and don’t have a clear urgency to settle down. Theoretically, this is when want to have time before becoming dads.
It’s about a 60/40 split, and the women live longer than the men.
In later years, the gender gap becomes even wider as men tend to die earlier than women..
But for guys who are facing a new life of dating post divorce – the options are many, and the joys are plentiful.
You’re much more attractive to women, and those hotties that ignored you 20 years ago, they’d kill for you now.