Between the ages of 18 months and 3 years, children learn the language for body parts and functions. Children this age become certain of their own gender, but not sure of its permanence – they know they are a boy or a girl, but they don’t think of this as a permanent condition!
Children often attach a sense of naughtiness to using this language, instead of viewing it as everyday, acceptable vocabulary. Because parents unintentionally attach this sense of naughtiness. Questions about why some children have penises and some don't are likely to come up at this time, especially if a child has the chance to see others naked.
No matter what your boyfriend has told you about his ex wife, you should never repeat it in front of the children, even if he does.
Even if you know this woman was the cause of the divorce, you need to be sensitive to the face that she is the children's mother, and it's never your place to undermine her in this role.
Between birth and 18 months, children begin to differentiate between female and male roles. Language creates distance, and distance helps a person recover from the abuse.
Between birth and 18 months, children discover their genitals and begin to touch themselves for pleasure. A child's feelings about their own body are influenced by how adults respond to masturbation. Even if you use the correct words, you may still hear your child use the wrong words.
The kids are right about one thing, you're not their mom, and you shouldn't try to be—at least not yet.
If you end up , then you can start working out your role in the family.
Does a 3-month old baby understand it when you say, “I love you, I love you”? Between birth and 18 months, children begin to develop negative or positive attitudes toward their own bodies based on the kind of touch that they receive. Our goal should be to normalize the discussion of sexuality with children, but it’s hard to normalize something that’s “wrong.” There are three additional reasons for the correct naming of body parts.
A good man will want to put his family first, and he should.
You wouldn't want the father of your children to brush them off for someone outside the family, so don't take it personally when he has to cancel because his kids are sick or he has to go to a ballet recital.
If you disagree with any of these messages, that's okay. This is your elbow.” Then, for some reason, our voice jumps a couple of octaves and gets silly-sounding. Same as above: Genitals are not really part of the body; they are unmentionable; there’s something wrong with them.
We don’t have to agree on everything, but we do think certain messages need to be given. “This is your wee-wee.” Do we have silly names for knees and elbows? We don’t do this on purpose, but it does affect children.