Here’s the important thing to realize: Safeguarding your marriage against infidelity should extend beyond the bedroom.
Infidelity occurs well before having actual sex with someone, and in today’s culture, the smoke can potentially be fanned into a fire during text messaging.
This medium, however, is consuming, maintaining, and altering the human mind to such a hyper degree.
It's affecting marital relationships so drastically that we cannot discuss it.
Unfortunately, there is a false sense of security that exists in cell-phone text messaging with the opposite sex: It almost always feels as though the words sent and received in a text will not venture into dangerous open waters. There is no shallow end to stand on or wall to grab onto.
What is sent and received in a text-based world can easily trigger our deepest, darkest feelings and desires, surfacing them in a conversation that began harmlessly.
Let’s be honest: Many married men and married women text the opposite sex innocently without ever falling into this trap.
It can be argued, and I would agree, that each communication medium in history has had its own potential relationship perils.
Too often in text messaging, particularly with the opposite sex, insignificant words are sent that are either consciously or unconsciously linked to more significant emotional or sexual roots in the heart; roots that are intended to remain deeply rooted in a marriage instead outside of it, to prevent emotional or sexual detachment from a spouse.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve studied others' research and heard stories in my own research of married men and women texting outside their marriage with the opposite sex that ended in an extramarital affair.
When a large amount of cognizant, fantasizing, emotional, and/or sexual effort is placed consistently on another person outside of a marital relationship, it is difficult to maintain full, consistent levels of spousal emotional and/or sexual attachment.
Text-messaging only increases the speed it takes to progress between steps one and ten, as self-disclosure is more readily shared in a seemingly private, proverbial, closed-room setting.