Want to know a secret that will make all dates and future relationships better? She Says: How can you know if someone is marriage material without spending any time with him?I’m not saying date people just to date them, but if your standards are so incredibly high that you’re not going on any dates at all, you might be doing it wrong. And if it goes well, it will lead to another date, not a sacrament – that comes a lot later, after a lot more dates.But ALWAYS be up front with the person that you’re dating: if you don’t want to date them anymore, don’t date them anymore.Be clear and kind in the break-up process, but for the love of God, don’t put all the blame on Him.A guy will say that he’s prayerfully discerned out the relationship because he needs more time to pursue Christ on his own – and then BAM! If you’re really feeling called like it’s time to be single, be single.Just don’t name-drop God because you think that will hurt the other person less… The Solution: It is important to be a person of prayer and do your best to follow God’s will in all your relationships.And just as often they carry us into a crazy over-analysis of every text ever exchanged ever.
Sometimes we can let them carry us off into the sunset, on the beach, alongside a handsome stranger, both of us atop gleaming white horses, our hair blowing in the wind…The Situation: Things seem to be going pretty well – and then all of a sudden it ends with one line: “It’s not you, it’s God.” Sometimes, well-intentioned Catholics will use God to get out of a relationship they don’t want to be in anymore. Those are both decisions that we made for ourselves, but they sound way better if God told us to do it.Break-ups are always tough, but they’re even harder when the person you’ve been dating tells you that they’re ending things because God told them to. Someone once ended things with me by saying, “It’s what God wants” – and I can 100% say I’m glad that didn’t work out, but I wish she wouldn’t have played the God card.You’re going to need at least five more dates before you’ve got enough of his background info to start doodling his name on your notebooks… And if it doesn’t go well, then it’s not the end of the world… The Situation: Speaking of names doodled on notebooks… Even though it’s a great Catholic buzzword (here’s a throwback blog on it), many of us still don’t quite know what it means.If I tell a joke to a girl and she laughs, does that mean I’ve messed with her emotional chastity by inadvertently flirting?