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In this first meeting you will cover chapters one and two of “Preparing for Your Marriage.” If the couple has already set a wedding date, this meeting should take place approximately five months before the wedding day. The couple must express a desire to be in God’s Word on a regular basis and to worship and fellowship with other believers. Although not necessarily a biblical requirement for marriage, it can be inferred and is very important. Granting approval without parental consent should be an extreme exception. If you find yourself in a situation where you don’t have parental approval, proceed with much prayer and caution. If possible meet with the parents and have them articulate their concern.
It is preferable that the couple NOT prepare ahead of time for this first meeting; I’ll explain why in a moment. For you to get to know the couple and to make them feel comfortable and at ease with you, your spouse, and with the counseling process. To discern the spiritual condition of the counselees, and the degree to which each is familiar with the spiritual history and commitment of the other. To discern problem areas which might disqualify the couple for marriage, and determine if the couple meets the qualifications for marriage. To come to an understanding of the necessity of sexual purity prior to their marriage. To outline the counseling process and what will be required of the couple. Should you grant your approval for their wedding and for the church’s involvement if one or more parents are against it? You may want to devote an entire meeting or more just to address this issue.
You might have to meet privately, men with men, women with women, in order for this to surface as an issue to address.
This second meeting will cover chapters 3-11 in “Preparing For Your Marriage.” It should take place about one month after meeting one unless there were circumstances that required an additional meeting.
Counselors should feel free to adapt this approach to their own gifts and style, so long as the essentials are covered. This guide is intended to assist you in planning and working through the counseling process with your couple. From this approach, you might be able to glean the following. Does the couple talk about their faith with each other? Are they confident about the other’s conversion, and is it true faith so far as they can tell? Does the couple seem to have an interest in spiritual things? It is a delight to hear a couple talk about the Lord, what He has done in their life, and how He is still at work.
Keep in mind also that each couple to be counseled will have different levels of spiritual maturity and needs. Some will be engaged for the first time; others may have been married before. The primary source to help you in organizing your meetings will be William J. This approach can also completely stump the couple!
Is it your desire to have a Christian ceremony and Christian wedding? If the couple knows ahead of time they will be asked about their faith, they will have time to “prepare” an answer.
Then ask them where they stand in relation to these verses. Another difficult discussion to have, but necessary, is the issue of pornography and/or sexual abuse.
Many in our body have witnessed first hand the tragic result of pornography and sexual abuse on individuals and married couples.
Mc Rae’s book “Preparing for Your Marriage.” You, your spouse, and the couple you are counseling, should have a copy of this book. Should that be the case, rather that allow them to “wing it,” make this an assignment they will be ready to do at the next meeting.
Encourage the couple to complete the assignments separately. The church’s Pre-Marriage Counseling and/or Wedding Process, states that after the first meeting you and the Wedding Officiant are to decide if the couple qualifies to continue.